Do you ever get the feeling that all you want to do is please other people or that your main mission in life is to seek the approval of others for your own very existence? And for some reason or another, no matter how you try you are just not succeeding and nobody really notices your efforts. Do you feel like it is a waste of time, but you can’t stop?
We can be very hard on ourselves for seemingly not fitting in, for not getting things right, or not understanding what it takes to make another person feel good. It can be so hard that, at times, our first thoughts when we wake up in the morning is what can I do better for this person or that person and unfortunately, we forget that the most important approval comes from within ourselves.
If you don’t love yourself, then no matter how hard you try or how much you wish, you are never going to feel like anyone else can or does love you. It is a simple rule of life: love thyself.
If you have ADD or ADHD you can probably relate well to this; however, this is a very common dilemma for just about every type of person, in every walk of life.
ADDer children respond well to approval and perform even better when rewarded. As a matter of fact a below average graded child in school can become an above average student when properly rewarded and praised. And to save children from becoming dependent on rewards and praise the incentives must be weighed and measured with great precision to each child’s needs. However, in adulthood praise and rewards can be few and far between and that leaves ADDers searching and desiring for something they feel is ‘missing’ in their life.
What is it? What’s missing? Approval?
Written by ~Bryan Hutchinson~
